Dating someone going through a messy divorce
“That’s cool,” I said, as if what he’d said was no big deal. When I questioned her way of going about it, she said to me, “you seem to be just fine, like you’re moving on, but it seems like she needs a friend.” Filled with rage and wanting to cry, I said, “Oh, OK, I get it now. Being the least gossipy of the gossipers, I had been irked recently when one of the members accused me, in a subtle and perhaps unaware way, of causing her problems for having gossiped.Enraged from my conversation with R., I sent an email to P., one of the members of my group, copying A. In it, I accused her of being as gossipy as other gossipers.
But kids also can come out of it better able to cope with stress, and many become more flexible, tolerant young adults.It's important to try to leave feelings of anger, guilt, or blame out of it.Practice how you're going to manage telling your kids so you don't become upset or angry during the talk.As soon as you're certain of your plans, talk to your kids about your decision to live apart.