Dating up or down
The Con: When your bf's handsome exterior starts to affect your self-esteem and makes you question your own positive attributes, you risk turning into a jealous girlfriend who starts fights every time a girl glances in his direction (or vice versa). If you feel like you will never be able to keep him because his looks are so superior to yours and it's making your self-confidence plummet, then it's time to move on, advises Cohen. If he's a keeper, he will know just what to say to make you secure with yourself and relationship.
Dating Down If you equate yourself with Gisele Bundchen and are bummed that your guy isn't on Tom Brady's level of perfection, you might fall into this category.
If someone at work asked me about my weekend, I smiled silently too. Buying a house in the woods and dating men who lived in the woods was no doubt a way of alleviating impostor syndrome, chronic worries I’d forget which Shakespeare play I’d just quoted, or that I’d be forced to say a word or phrase I’d read but never heard: “fin de siècle” or “deus ex machina” or “ribald.”Then I met a man at a conference who’d studied Latin at top-tier schools. He liked that I was wisecracking and “sexually unapologetic.” He went home and told his girlfriend he loved me, then called daily.
We had an expert weigh in on what it means to date up (you think your guy is hotter) and date down (you think you're hotter than your guy) and how it can affect your outlook on love. "It makes us feel more secure and less afraid of losing someone we love," says relationship expert Harlan Cohen, author of Naked Dating. The Pro: If your man's a total babe, pat yourself on the back.
Dating Up Maybe your guy is a dead-ringer for Ryan Gosling and you feel more like Ellen Page next to him. And while you're swooning over how hot he is, remember, you landed him, buff bod and all.
You don’t want to marry the first person you meet, but you also don’t want to wait too long.
This can be a serious dilemma, especially for people with perfectionist tendencies.Instead, he slept on a makeshift bed-couch in the living room. When we first hooked up, I was just beginning my freshman year of college and by the time we broke up, I was juggling two internships, a bartending job, a 4.0 and a pretty serious partying schedule that didn’t include him.It was here, with his father bumbling in to ask, “What’s going on? What kept us together wasn’t as exciting as sex or arguments over our incompatibility — but that I could show up at his place at 10 p.m.And it keeps you interested and working it in the bedroom." So he's hotter than you, big deal.