Dating vs courting
A courtship devotee would say, “Put your foot down! In addition, parents who instill old world methods for dealing with modern day problems are limiting their child’s ability to cope with today’s challenges.
So before you turn against dating and buy all of the promises of courtship, think about how vigorously enforcing that paradigm could take you out of anything remotely mainstream. And, realize that it will not bulletproof your marriage.
A man will court a particular woman because he believes it is possible that he could marry her, and the courtship is the process of discerning whether that belief is correct.
To the extent that the Bible addresses premarital relationships at all, it uses the language of men marrying and women being given in marriage. Selfishness is not what drives a Biblical marriage, and therefore should not be what drives a Biblical courtship.
Scott Croft writes a simple yet Biblically sound teaching describing why courting is the best choice for Christians. Courtship ordinarily begins when a single man approaches a single woman by going through the woman’s father and then conducts his relationship with the woman under the authority of her father, family or church, whichever is most appropriate. Biblical courtship has one motive – to find a spouse.
(Matthew ; Luke -35) Numbers 30:3-16 talks about a transfer of authority from the father to the husband when a woman leaves her father’s house and is united to her husband. Biblical courtship recognizes the general call to “do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility consider others better than yourselves” (Phil 2:3) It also recognizes the specific call that Ephesians gives men in marriage, where our main role is sacrificial service.